~ Agathos Church is a non-denominational Christian Church in Columbus, Ohio. This blog post is an adapted excerpt from a sermon by Brad Ettore. You can hear the whole sermon, God and Moms, by clicking here.
Women’s Unique Abilities are from God
Women are nurturers by nature. They are nurturers, comforters, protectors, providers, and encouragers of children. They are also nurturers, comforters, protectors, providers, and encouragers of husbands, of parents, of brothers and sisters, of strangers – of everyone. They are truly the nurturers in the earth. This nature that is in women is the very nature of God – that’s where it came from.
God possesses every wonderful attribute that you see in a woman. And, God possesses every wonderful attribute that you see in a man. While some people don’t agree, it is pretty plain in Genesis that God created Adam as “human kind – made in His image and in His likeness – male and female he created.” Genesis 1:27 does not say (in the Hebrew) that He created “them.” It just says “male and female He created.” In chapter 2, we see it was a later event in which God removed the female portion out of man and created woman. Adam (Hebrew for “mankind) was created fully male and fully female – he was created in the image of God. God is the same. God is our comforter. He is our nurturer. He watches over us. Jesus said “O Jerusalem, Jerusalem . . . How often I wanted to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, but you were not willing!” (Matt 23:27)
The capacity women have to be the nurturers that they are comes from God!
Children are Dependent upon their Parents
Children are born totally dependent on their parents. Over the years, children grow less and less dependent on their parents. As children become more independent in their teenage years, a transfer of dependence MUST take place – to God! The idea of complete independence is not Biblical and not of God. When children are little they are completely dependent on their parents. They are not worried or concerned about their next meal, what they are going to do that day, etc. They are dependent on their parents for leadership, protection, provision – for everything. And this is why children play. They play within the confines of that safety and provision. Their hearts delight and the squeal with laughter throughout the day. Yet, something changes. Something of that joy lessens as children grow older. They begin to feel the weight of the world. The pressures of life and its cares. The issue is that we live in a culture that encourages teenagers towards “independence.”
Independence is actually not the goal of adolescence and subsequently adulthood. Instead, as a child becomes and adult and begins to assume responsibility for their own life, the key is that they increasingly place themselves DIRECTLY under the leadership of God so that their dependence can be upon Him. When we are young we are responsible to our parents and our parents are responsible to God for us. When we become older we become responsible for ourselves and God is wanting to be right their to help us in that – He wants us to enjoy being dependent upon Him! If we will follow God’s design in this progression, the result will be that we will be “as little children” with Him – delightful, joyful, and fully trusting in His protection, provision, and direction for our days and lives! Jesus said “Assuredly, I say to you, unless you are converted and become as little children, you will by no means enter the kingdom of heaven. 4 Therefore whoever humbles himself as this little child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.” (Matt 18:3-4)
This why it is very important that parents teach children (especially in the very early years) simple obedience. Currently, there is a popular concept of “explaining” to your children why you are disciplining them. The trouble with that (although it seems logical) is that you are saying the child has rights. Rights only come with authority. If you are saying they have rights, you are saying they have authority. It is on that premise that parents will think “if I am a good parent, I need to explain to them why you are disciplining them. Wrong. They have no authority when they are very young and therefore they have no rights. They obey their parents – period. This is super important that kids understand this, otherwise you are literally teaching them a principle that is not accurate in their relationship with their Father in Heaven.
When God speaks to our hearts and tells us to do something or not do something, 99% of the time He gives no explanation! He just says “do this, or don’t do that.” He will witness in our hearts about not getting into a business relationship. He usually will not tell us why. What God wants from us is simple obedience. Obey Him. If a child was not taught that, they will rebel against God and say “unless you explain to me ‘why,’ I am doing my own thing.” Why do they have that in their heart? Because their parents taught that to them! Children need to be taught simple obedience :)
Allowing our Father to Care for Us!
Children live in direct contact with their parents at all times and as a result parents are directing their paths. When we grow up, if we transfer that constant contact to the Father, He will direct our paths! “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.” (Prov. 3:5-6)
As children, we call upon our Moms when we are in trouble – and they come and deliver us. As adults, who remain as children (meaning dependent on God), when we fall we call upon God and He is faithful to deliver us! “Call upon Me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you shall glorify Me.” (Ps. 50:15) We glorify God by letting Him be our source – letting Him deliver us!
Children are full of joy because they trust in the relationship they have with their parents – knowing that their parents will protect them and that they have everything taken care of. As adults, it is God’s desire that we maintain that joy – that we would enter His rest and be full of joy because we trust utterly in His faithfulness to us. “But let all those rejoice who put their trust in You; let them ever shout for joy, because You defend them; let those also who love Your name
be joyful in You.” (Ps. 5:11)
As children, we are dependent on the faithfulness of our parents. “Trust in the Lord, and do good; dwell in the land, and feed on His faithfulness.” (Ps. 37:3) God wants His children to know He is there for them! He wants them to literally feed on His faithfulness. He wants them to trust Him! Just like we did our mom and dad when we were 1, 2, or 3 years old. The end result will be complete peace and rest – and the joy will return!
Sometimes we wonder where our joy has gone. We see children playing and laughing but we don’t feel the same way. What has happened? The cares of the world have entered in. Think about what would happen to you if you were suddenly gifted a $25 million inheritance. Would your joy go up? Why? Simple – a whole lot of cares would leave. Mortgage? Done. Car payment? Done. Student loans? Done. Struggling family member? Back on their feet. Out to dinner? Your treat. Your joy would go up not for the money specifically, but for the cares it would take off of your heart. But your Father in Heaven wants you to trust Him! When we do, our joy will increase! “Ask, and you will receive, that your joy may be full.” (Jn 16:24)
When we realize God has us, we can enter into His rest! “Let us therefore be diligent to enter that rest.” (Heb. 4:11) We are to labor for one thing – to enter His rest! God had spoken to the Israelites about the rest available to them, but they did not mix His promises to them with faith. They didn’t believe Him. And that’s why we worry; we don’t believe Him. God says “believe Me – I’ve got you!” But it takes faith. You have to believe Him – then His grace flows. If we do believe Him, we can step out of the boat and walk on water!
“To give them beauty for ashes . . . ” (Isa. 61:3) As children, when we fall off of our bike and scrape our knee, our parents mend us (and the bike) up. As adults, when we have broken relationships, bodies, etc. we take it to God and He restores it! He will restore whatever we allow Him to! God is “a father of the fatherless, a defender of widows” – if they let Him.
Why should we transfer our dependence to God?
We can transfer our dependence to God. Why should we?
- Because He loves us more than we love ourselves! God actually loves you more than you love you! We are learning to love ourselves, but God loves you and me perfectly!!!
- Because He knows us better than we know ourselves! God knows you better than you know you! How many times has God revealed something to you about your own heart – and as a result you see it . . . “that’s why I act this way, that’s why I do this.” God reveals things to us about us that we did not know until He revealed it to us. He knows us better than we know ourselves. Sure sounds like a good person to trust in – to transfer our dependence to!
- Because His blessing is on those who trust in Him. “Oh, taste and see that the Lord is good; Blessed is the man who trusts in Him!” (Ps. 34:8)